Matchmaking-Finding Love Online and Offline

e-Matchmaking: Can a Computer Program Find Love For You?

2006-02-22T18:00:00.000+08:00

Logged on to a dating site the other day and was greeted by a large, flashing message. It promised that if I took the time to answer a series of questions that they would find a "perfect match" for me. Imagine that? All the work and worry of being single - gone! We truly have evolved! Not only can computer programs manage the entire traffic system of a city and make chess grandmasters cry, but now they can lead my perfect match right to my doorstep. I always wanted a Stepford wife, I hope it comes assembled. The recent trend in Internet Dating has been the use of a "computer personality test" of some sort. Websites claim that these tests, usually developed by a "top psychologist", have the ability to understand you and your needs through a series of questions. Confused? Lost in love? Problems communicating? Don't worry, the Online Dating Hal 5000 can figure you out! In fact, when you're done, this computer program will know your needs and desires better than you do. Remember the Broadway play "Fiddler on The Roof"? You might not, it was the first Broadway play I went to when I was seven. A song that always stuck in my head for some reason was "matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match…" The song starts as a plea to the matchmaker to bring true love straight to the altar; someone beautiful, rich, intelligent, and perfect.

But by the end of the song, the singer realizes that the Matchmaker might not be up to the task. She decides that "playing with matches, a girl can get burned".

So, do these tests really work?

Personality tests have a long history. Really, really smart guys with names like Freud, Maslov, Fromm, and Jung developed respected psychological theories, and these theories are used as the basis for all types of tests. "The Big Five" theory suggests that there are five dimensions of personality: openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Some popular personality tests use this as a foundation. Others go the "Big Three" route, which does away with the "openness" and "agreeableness" dimensions - mostly because it's easier to remember.

I joke a little about these theories, but the truth is that they've survived the test of time and there is a ton of scientific research behind them. The real question is if these tests can be effective in applying a theory to the complexity of a human being. Add to this the additional layer of meshing your answers with another, equally complex person. That's a tall order.

People have impulsive behavior that simply can't be measured when they're sitting, relaxed and introspective, taking one of these tests. Often our answers reflect our perfect (or hopeful) idea of ourselves. Even if we are trying our best to be honest, our impulsive behavior in real-life situations can be far different than we'd expect.

Another wildcard is attraction. We can meet someone who's empirically good-looking, has a similar background, is kind and successful - and yet we're not attracted. Often we can't explain why we like another person. It may be how they make us laugh, a crooked smile - even how they smell! Sometimes little things that are immeasurable on their own can collectively make us attracted.

Human beings and our emotions and desires are far too complex, and a computer program can't solve the riddles of our romantic lives. As Jung put it, "the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is a reaction both are transformed". It sounds good, but even Jung was hedging his bet when it comes to love. What will cause two individuals to react to each other? Even the developers of the study of personality would not presume that a series of questions could predict romance.

If you rely solely on matchmaking services, you are missing the entire beauty of online dating. The beauty is opportunity. Online dating offers you an almost limitless opportunity to meet and date new people. It gives you the time and space to find what best suits you. Going to a quality dating site that isn't trying to sell you fantasy of finding your match for you will mean you will have a pool of millions of singles to meet.

Treat matchmaking options as just another fun way to explore. It can serve as an ice breaker to start a conversation, but don't expect them to be the answer to finding your perfect match. Keep all options open and explore possibilities. As a unique individual, only can you know what works for you. You need to develop skills to communicate and meet people. Developing both online and offline dating skills is the best way to find the right relationship.

Next time you're brushing your teeth, take a look in the mirror. See that amazing person? That's your matchmaker with a mouthful of toothpaste. Take charge of your life and get into action! Enjoy dating and enjoy the process of discovery. Your experiences, both good and not-so-good, are essential to finding the right person for you.

About the Author

Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") is a Relationship Coach, Life-Coach, radio host, columnist, and the developer of ToolsToLife.com. . His new program OnlineDatingKit.com teaches Internet daters the skills they need to find their perfect matches on their own.

Adult Dating

2006-02-22T17:53:00.000+08:00

Today's cyber world has change the way we date. In the old days, we met our partners on a blind date, via some friends, at a party or alike. Now days, we have the online dating.

As the world became more and more "open minded", people have the opportunity the find what they were always fantasizing right here, on the internet. Up until now, if you felt "naughty" and wanted to have a flirt/one night stand/discreet relationship etc, you needed to go out and find it or to look in the old style classified. Now days, you can find it all on the internet. The biggest problem is to find the right site, as most of them are some kind of adult site that shows photos/movies and the others are kind of "hardcore" sites.

If you are looking for a site that will give you the opportunity to find that "open minded" parent, you will find it more difficult, and you will probably going to search a lot on the search engines to find a site that is more "soft core" but still target your kind of search.

What is the difference between adult dating sites and normal dating sites? Well, liberated dating sites target people that are more interested in casual sex or casual relationships. Whereas most online daters are looking for something more than just a casual fling. One of these kinds of sites is http://www.onenightstanddate.com/

It is a new fresh open-minded down to earth site with exactly the kind of "soft core" style, which puts you in the right mood but not over doing it. On OneNightStandDate.com, You will find personal advertisements for individuals who want sex while they travel for business or pleasure, people looking to meet for real sex, women and men looking for alternative partners or people who want to find a date for Saturday night and people seeking casual and/or discrete partners for fun and adventure.

There are greater risks associated with primarily adult dating agencies, but this one provides useful guides for meeting people off-line, which makes you feel safe and more ready to try this kind of dating - follow these guidelines to the letter - they are there for your protection.

OneNightStandDate.com offers the latest features of the online dating service, which helps you communicate is many different ways in order to find your partner and still have some fun while you search:

ShoutBoxPrivate

photo gallery

Private BLOG

Top-rated profiles lookup

Zodiac signs lookup in profiles and search results

Password-protected members photos

Messenger with storing system

Advanced control panel for members (profile status and all-contacts information)

Media (video and audio messages for profiles)

Configurable Flash-based online live-chat system

Instant messenger with photos and history

Advanced search - Search for online members, searching members, communicating (in IM) members...

USA states and ZIP codes search options

Matchmaking (auto search based on user-specified criteria)

Cupid mail (matchmaking results auto-sending

What is greater about it is that this site is free.

The Owner of the site wrote about OnenightStandDate.com's services: "We all want it. We all wish we could, we all try to find it... but how, where and when? Here, in OneNightStandDate.com you will find exactly what you are looking for as the other members look for the same thing as you. We are NOT a sex site, as we do not provide any kind of porno or alike. We are the place for you to relax and find exactly what you are looking for, enjoy and meet that person that you will have some fun with."

To get a free full functional profile, join on http://www.onenightstanddate.com/ and remember to have fun while you are there.

About the Author

Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of www.onenightstanddate.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills as a dater and as an IT pro to help other fun seekers in today's cyber world. He is an expert writer on ezinearticles.com and searchwarp.com

Write a Better Online Personal Ad

2006-02-17T00:55:00.000+08:00

If you are going to invest time or money in using a matchmaking website, you should really pay some attention to writing a profile that will get you some responses. People will not be interested in emailing you if you do not do something to make yourself stand out from the masses of people using personal ads.

I administer several dating websites. People frequently write in saying, "I never get any replies to my ad." And when I go look at the ad, I find that they have not filled out the profile, or added a photo. Who can tell if they want to email you if there is no information? Not quite as bad, but still ineffective, is a profile that says, "Email me for details" or "looking for a nice person." You can't bother to write a paragraph to find the love of your life? Or even a fun date for the weekend?

Here are some guidelines for writing effective personal ad blurbs:

INVESTMENT. Decide that this is worth spending some time on, or don't bother. You wouldn't submit a sloppy resume, would you? This is about making a good first impression, because there will be no second chance once someone clicks to the next ad.

MARKETING. You are marketing yourself... trying to stand out in a crowd. You are the "product." and the people you want to meet are your customers. Think about who you want to meet, and then think about who THEY want to meet! How can you tell them that YOU are the person they want to meet? Magazine ads, for example, grab your attention, make you laugh, they make you think "wow, what a great thing... I want to buy it." They can be short, but pack a punch. If they are long, they tell a good story. Marketers test their different ad campaigns, and you should, too. Try placing different ads to see what gets you a better result.

PREPARATION. Before you log in anywhere, do some thinking and writing. Don't wait until you are faced with a blinking cursor to write your blurb. Give serious thought to how you will describe yourself and the person you hope to find. Write at least two paragraphs, one about yourself, and one about the person you seek. Ask someone you trust to read those paragraphs and comment on how well they reflect who you are and what you want. Save that text to cut and paste into dating website forms. Have a digital photo or two ready.

OPENING LINES. Use your username... don't be Bob3456... be PaintBallPrincess or SecretSuperHero or something else that reflects your sense of humor and yourself. If the ad allows you a "subject line" also use that well... "Need woman in Atlanta" doesn't cut it. "Atlanta man on a mission" sounds more interesting. "Atlanta Knight seeks his Queen" tells a different story about who you are seeking. Use your username and subject line to hook people into your ad. Use humor, drama, a funky metaphor. Then, like any good ad, you want to show them you are what they need, show them why you are unique, and invite them to take action... by emailing you!

DETAILS. Write in complete sentences. Spelling and grammar DO count. We have modern tools to help with that. You want to look like you find this task important enough to spell out the words. Unless you are 15 years old, writing "If u r inrested n me, wrt 2 me" makes you LOOK 15 years old. ALL CAPS IS LIKE SHOUTING... don't. It is actually harder to read.

HONESTY. If you are not honest with yourself and others, you will not find happiness in the personals. Are you married? You know, people CAN figure that out and will resent the lie more than the wedding ring. Without making any value judgements, putting down "married" will not necessarily stop you from finding matches. If you are just looking for a casual date, don't imply that you are looking for marriage just to get more email... it wastes everyone's time. If you are looking for a long-term thing, don't think you can "convince" a casual date to spend more time with you. You are asking for disappointment. Try completing this sentence: "In a year, I'd like to see us doing...."

STRINGS. Guys, I see many you making a crucial mistake in your profiles. You will find that women are seldom looking for a "no strings relationship." There simply is no such thing... if it is a relationship, it has strings of SOME sort. If you don't want strings, you are looking for an escort service. Women of any description can find casual physical relationships without lifting a finger to a keyboard. Don't lie, but think about which "strings" are okay with you. "Seeking Torrid Summer Romance" is fine and honest. So is, "I am not eager to move in or get married. I want to have a regular date for parties and cookouts with my friends." Ladies, this counts for you, too. If your personal ad sounds like you might be offering paid sexual services, you are going to get some rude offers. You might avoid phrases like, "looking for a wealthy man with good taste in jewelry."

BEYOND PHYSICAL. Have you ever really dated someone just for their eye color? OK, maybe you have spectacular eyeballs. But ads tend to reel off personal stats... and then stop there, as though there were nothing but a body. Most personal sites let you click things to describe your eyes, hair, and height... don't waste valuable profile space on your hair. Talk about who you are first, and what you look like at the end. Want to know the number one thing surveyed women look for in a guy? A sense of humor.

AVOID NEGATIVES. This is not the place to list all the things that drove you crazy about your ex and how you won't put up with that again. Don't list what you don't want... discuss what you DO want. Turn your own lifestyle quirks into positives, not obstacles. Workaholic? Try, "My career keeps me very busy, so I need someone with a flexible schedule for spontaneous one-day adventures." Frugal to a fault? Try "I find it amusing to squeeze a nickel 'til it screams... help me research for my web column "CheapDates for CheapSkates." Worried people will regard your children as an obstacle? "My family is very important to me and I hope to find someone that will enjoy the attention of a warm family circle."

POST A PHOTO. Website statistics show that an ad with a photo is 80% more likely to get a response. A photo that shows you relaxed and having fun, no matter what you look like, is even better. Don't use a photo that isn't current.. it isn't worth looking so insecure, or being rejected later. Don't rush to ask for a photo... you may look like a "pic trader," someone who is collecting photos rather than looking for a real date. Don't stress about your looks... attraction is about more than looks. Yes, we often are first attracted to someone by looks, when we meet in person. But on the Internet, if you seem like a jerk, you won't get the chance to meet in person.

LIFE STAGES. People often say that "age" is not as important as "life stage." Where are you in your life? Just starting out in a new career? Settled into life with kids? Empty-nesting? Exploring new interests? These are things that matter. Talk about what is important in your life. "I am established in my career and now turning my attention to the great books I never had time to read." "I moved to this state for a job after college, and I am looking for dates with a lot of outdoors-loving friends to help me build a sporty new social circle."

FAVORITE THINGS. Listing ALL your favorite things is dizzying.. Choose one good example and talk about why you like it. Choose something that gives the reader an insight into what you enjoy. You want people to be able to spot things you have in common, but also feel that there is something new and interesting to learn about you. Interest them in learning more with a "teaser" about something fascinating about you. Ask a question for them to answer in the reply email.

RULES. Never... NEVER include your last name, phone number or address. Observe the rules of the various websites... some do not allow you to post web addresses or email addresses. Many prohibit crude language or sexual references. Getting your ad removed by breaking rules is a waste of time.

So... let your personality be shown in a tasteful way, take the time to do a good job, and have a good photo. Those things alone will put you far ahead of the misspelled anonymous pack. Best of luck!

About the author: Tracy Brant is a freelance writer and an editor at Dateable.com. She can be contacted at tracy@dateable.com.

www.Dateable.com is an exciting online community for singles, couples and romance lovers. Dateable.com has romantic resources, advice, poetry, greeting cards, and more. Dateable.com also features specialty matchmaking services. Whether you are looking for a soulmate or a playmate, visit http://dateable.com/

Online dating, free membership or not!

2006-02-17T00:45:00.000+08:00

Ever joined a dating site that stated 100% free to join only to find that you were not given access to all of the sites features? The issue of finding totally free online dating and personals ads sites have been a difficult task since most users find it difficult to determine which sites are actually free and which are not. This issue has become very time consuming for those seeking online member interaction and other sites that offer real free full memberships.

Many online websites offer potential members a 100% free to a join membership without detailing the extent of the certain membership offered. The theory here is sometimes clear in the label free to join only means making you a member with a profile. However, the other features will be accessible only if you become an upgraded (paying member).

In the alternative, you have those offering a free full membership or trial membership. Free full membership offers provides you with a chance to use all of the sites features to interact with other members. The trial membership that let's you interact with others but this may have some time period or limitations of use (for example: you could only contact so many members a day)!

100% free to join memberships have been very troublesome for the new members that find themselves filling out numerous online forms to join these relationship, sex, dating, love and matchmaking type sites only to later find out they cannot send and/ or reply to other members' profiles, enter chat rooms, send instant messages, view profiles, etc.

This membership issue has also left a terrible impression on many other online dating, personals, sex and other matchmaking type-sites that actually offer real free full memberships. Some sites have actually lost potential members because many visitors become discouraged from there previous experiences with other sites.

There are several online dating and personals sites that offer a free full membership or free trial memberships.

Erotic Explorers an adult sex and swingers personals website has made its site free for users looking to join. Erotic Explorers allows you to create your own personal profile with photos, video and audio. The website is also filled with amenities such as multiple chat rooms, private messaging, virtual kisses, daily x-rated videos, message boards and much more!

Eroticy is offering visitors a no credit card required 3-day free trial to entice visitors to try is great services without the feeling of commitment. Its membership includes profiles with photos, video and audio. In addition, they offer web cam chat, chat room, x-rated home or professional movies, etc

OBC is another great site where either person could be a paying member before you could contact a member. You must include a picture and since the site is geared towards bootycalls the profiles primarily pictures, so it's a very quick sign up.

So, before you visit your next online dating site, you should find out if its 100% free to join or does it have a 100% free full membership offer then give it try!

About the Author

John Sutton is the proud owner of Erotic Explorers adult personals site http://www.eroticexplorers.com/. Visit Erotic Explorers today and join to get your free full membership!

Dating After Fifty

2006-02-17T00:44:00.000+08:00

Dating at an older age is not too hard. And it can be a lot of fun especially with internet dating. And, today to find a date on the web is an accepted and safe form of dating.

You might be divorced and want to get back into the dating groove again. Or, you have tried the normal dating channels. You have been introduced to dates by well meaning friends or you have spent countless hours at the local Barnes & Nobles only to read lot's of books rather than meet anyone you would want to spend a lot of time with. You are frustrated and want an easier way.

If you pick the right internet dating site you will be pleasantly surprised by how easy it is to meet fun people who share similar interests with you. And, there are so many great internet dating sites for older people to choose from.

Just go to your favorite search engine and type in the type of dating you are looking for. Try some of these keywords, ''mature dating'' or ''mature dates'', ''dating over fifty'' or '' dating over 50'', senior dating or maybe ''adult dating''. Also, look at the ''dating directories''. These directories have many different sites listed in various categories all with brief introductions.

Some of the larger dating sites like, eHarmony.com, Friendfinder.com or Match.com are good sites to start your dating search. All these sites welcome you to fill out your free dating profile.

eHarmony is known for its very thorough matchmaking questionnaire they ask you to fill out online. Many successful relationships started at eHarmony. And there are many older people registered in there database.

www.Match.com also has a very large database of both men and women looking for there ideal mate. You are sure to find a date or two here. Match.com is probably one of the largest dating sites on the internet.

Friendfinder.com is also a very large dating network. As with most of the dating sites, it is free to add your profile.

Before signing up with any of these dating sites, go to a free internet webmail site. Some of the more common ones are Hotmil.com, Yahoo.com, Gmail.com and Mail.com. There are many more to choose. Sign up for a free email account. This is the email account you will initially use to receive email from prospective dates. This is to protect your privacy until you are comfortable with your potential dates.

With so many dating site choices on the internet today, you should be able to meet many people that share similar interests. You have to make the first step and seek them out.

If you follow these simple steps you will have fun with internet dating. With so many date sites people of all ages can find a partner or two. And, even if you don't find the person of your dreams right away, you will meet great friends that can definitely lead to lasting relationships.

About the Author

Ken Katz runs Web4love.com. His goal in life is to help everyone meet the partner of their dreams.

Ken found the love of his life four years ago and they used internet chat and email for three months in a bi-coastal relationship before moving in together. Today, they are both very happy and hope other people will also find the person of their dreams.

Dictionary for online daters

2006-02-17T00:42:00.001+08:00

Dating has become easier for everyone due to the emergence and success of online dating websites. You can choose the site that suits you best, look for people who have the features you desire along with common interests and contact them immediately. Some dating sites are featuring their own instant messaging for members to instantly communicate with each other. This is a great way to make contact and get excited about a new 'date'. But when you start chatting back and forth, the other person is typing recognizable words along with small clusters of letters here and there. What are they saying? These are considered to be 'Net Lingo' and are commonly used Internet acronyms.

411 - Information AFK - Away from keyboard AISI - As I see it AMBW - All my best wishes ATST - At the same time B4 - Before B4N - Bye for now BBIAF - Be back in a few BBL - Be back later BBN - Bye-bye now BRB - By Right Back BS - Big Smile BTW - By the way CID - Consider it done CSL - Can't stop laughing CWYL - Chat with you later DGT - Don't go there DHYB - Don't hold your breath DKDC - Don't know, don't care EG - Evil Grin EOM - End of message FOAF - Friend of a friend FTTB - For the time being FWIW - For what it's worth FYI - For your information GAL - Get a life GL - Good Luck GR8 - Great GTG - Got to go GTSY - Glad to see ya HAGO - Have a good one HAK - Hugs and Kisses HB - Hurry Back HHOK - Ha, ha only kidding HTH - Hope this helps IAE - In any event IDKY - I don't know you ILY - I love you IMO - In my opinion IRL - In real life IYSS - If you say so J/W - Just wondering KIT - Keep in touch KWIM - Know what I mean LD - Long distance LMK - Let me know LOL - Laughing out loud LTIC - Laughing 'til I cry LTNS - Long time no see LYL - Love ya lots M8 - Mate MRS - Meet real soon MWBRL - More will be revealed later MYOB - Mind your own business NBD - No big deal NOYB - None of your business NP - No problem OIC - Oh I see ONNA - Oh no, not again OOC - Out of Character OT - Off topic OTOH - On the other hand POV - Point of view RBTL - Read between the lines RN - Right now SF - Super friendly SNAG - Sensitive new age guy STYS - Speak to you soon SWDYT - So what do you think TAH - Take a hike TIAIL - Think I am in love TIC - Tongue in cheek TM - Trust me TMI - Too much information TTYL - Talk to you later TYVM - Thank you very much VM - Voice mail WE - Whatever WG - Wicked grin WYRN - What's your real name WYSIWYG - What you see is what you get YAFI - You asked for it YDKM - You don't know me YNK - You never know

Enjoy :-)

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About the Author

Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of www.jaters.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills to help other daters/singles in today's cyber world. He is an expert writer on www.ezinearticles.com and www.searchwarp.com

Dating for Adults - Making the Sexual Connection

2006-02-17T00:28:00.000+08:00

Tired of the dating ho-hum? Looking for some dating fun? Dating can be a little wild. Are you? When you've tried and gotten tired of the standard sites like Yahoo Personals or e-harmony, maybe what you are really looking for is one of the sites designed for adult fun. There are many sites that are for people looking for sexual hook-ups and the good times that come from enjoying a partner without the expectations and pressure of something serious or exclusive. Let me show you some of those sites:

PASSION - Over 18,000,000 active members. The purpose of the Passion.com site is to make it as easy as possible for you to meet people, using the power of the internet. At Passion.com, you'll find a community of people using the site as a tool to make connections and find partners for dating, romance, friendship, and a variety of encounters. To find your match, Passion offers several powerful features, which allow you to narrow your search so that you are able to find exactly the kind of person you, are looking for. On various occasions, new features are added to make your time at Passion.com a successful and fun experience. Passion.com offers a variety of membership packages. Standard membership is free. As a Standard member, you can chat, send instant messages, and browse through the worldwide database of profiles. You also have access to an interactive Magazine, where you can post or answer advice questions or post poetry and articles. There's plenty to do as a standard member! If you decide you want to speed up your search, consider one of the premium memberships. Premium memberships offer far more privileges and cost as little as 25 cents (or less!) per day.

FRIEND SEARCH - an online community of people from more than 250 countries seeking new friends, pen pals, love, relationships, soul mates, marriage, activity groups, organized events and much more! With the services offered, Members can even create personal network of friends. FriendSearch.com is much more than an online dating service. Members join for a variety of reasons. Many Members are simply interested in the romantic search option while other Members seek out friendships, life-partners, idea exchanges, and some Members are just open to the experience! Meet Adult singles in your area tonight. Browse millions of Adult photo personals to make friends, go dating, find love or long term relationships. 1,000s of matches made thru our Cupid's matchmaking service. Rated the World's #1 FREE Adult Online Dating site.

Sex SEARCH - Explicit pictures, videos, stories, images, or sounds will be contained on this website. If you are under 18 years of age, or if it is illegal to view adult material in your community, you must not visit this site.

ADULT FRIEND FINDER - Adult FriendFinder site is to make it as easy as possible for you to meet people, using the power of the internet. At Adult FriendFinder, you'll find a community of people using the site as a tool to make connections and find partners for dating, romance, friendship, and a variety of encounters. To find your match, the site offers several powerful features, which allow you to narrow your search so that you are able to find exactly the kind of person you are looking for. On various occasions, new features are added to make your time at Adult FriendFinder a successful and fun experience.

EROTICY - explore your sexuality. Eroticy was created and formed by two women. It started with a simple concept: create an adult site for adults. The objective was to provide a site people would not be ashamed and embarrassed to go or be a part of. Sex is a basic drive, along with food and sleep. In our society, it is too often associated with guilt. So Eroticy was created as a place where everyone can come and be themselves in a relaxed and safe environment where people from all over the world can explore their sexuality together. You can chat with someone about a bisexual curiosity or anonymously email someone who is into the same fetish as you. You can meet someone who is straight as an arrow or totally out there. Eroticy offers more than just adult content and dating opportunities. People join Eroticy for a sense of community. The relationships that people develop here are not bound by geography, society, or culture and are often deep, rich, and long lasting. Members earn merit and community standing by accumulating points earned by activity on the site, earning other member's admiration by being added to favorites lists, and otherwise being active members of the Eroticy community.

You're bound to find the adventure and fun you seek by visiting one of these sites. They are a little wild. Could that be you?

About the Author

William T. Gray writes on a variety of dating topics. His articles appear on numerous sites around the world, including adult dating sites such as the FriendlyDoor http://www.friendlydoor.com/

Personals - Online Adult Dating Sites

2006-02-17T00:22:00.000+08:00

Mature Fun from Adult Dating Services

Modern technology gave new dimension to the ever elusive adult dating scene. Now, adult dating services abound for those who dislike the nitty-gritty and dating "procedures and stages". These dating services also make less confident people more assertive through the initial "faceless" communication.

They offer fun activities for those looking for friends, activity partners, and lovers.

Here are a few of the best sites in the field of adult dating.

American Singles It claims to jumpstarting one's love life. It is one of those adult dating services that allow the posting of a profile and uploading a picture. Matchmaking is made through setting up its members with those who match their profiles.

eHarmony It is another adult dating service that caters to those who are searching for friends and life partners. It takes pride on its innovative profile matching system. It boasts of its 29 key dimensions that predict in-depth compatibility and more successful relationships.

Venusrooms.com It is also an adult dating service that claims its being one of the world's leading online dating sites. It is for those who live in UK and USA. It is also a free adult dating service. Its features include dating profiles with picture galleries, video dating profiles, an online dating chat program, friends list, adult dating ratings, e-mail alerts, etc.

Tickle It is an adult dating service that uses personality and IQ tests to facilitate the matchmaking process. Members of Tickle are often with college education, professional and those that reside in large cities.

Are you ready for adult fun or simply looking for less teeny-bopper kind of dating style? Then, choose from the wide array of adult dating services.

Who knows. . .one could even deliver your Mr. and Ms. Right to your door step.

About the Author

Jay is the web owner of http://www.singles-in.com/ Online Singles, a website that provides information and resources on personals, dating, and singles. You can visit his website at: http://www.personals-in.com/ Online Personals

Are You Ready For Adult Dating Services?

2006-02-17T00:21:00.000+08:00

Now, there are adult dating services for those who dislike the dating "procedures and stages". These dating services also make less confident people more assertive through the initial "faceless" communication.

They offer fun online activities for those looking for friends, activity partners, and lovers.

Here are a few of the best sites in the field of adult dating.

American Singles -- It claims to jumpstart one's love life. It is one of those adult dating services that allows the posting of a profile and uploading a picture. Matchmaking is done through setting up its members with others who match their profiles.

eHarmony -- It is another adult dating service that caters to those who are searching for friends and life partners. eHarmony takes pride in its innovative profile matching system. It boasts of its 29 key dimensions that predict in-depth compatibility and more successful relationships.

Venusrooms.com -- It is also an adult dating service that claims being one of the world's leading online dating sites. Venusrooms.com is for those who live in UK and USA. It is also a free adult dating service. Its features include dating profiles with picture galleries, video dating profiles, an online dating chat program, friends list, adult dating ratings and e-mail alerts, etc.

Tickle -- It is an adult dating service that uses personality and IQ tests to facilitate the matchmaking process. Members of Tickle often have a college education, are professionals and reside in large cities.

Are you ready for adult fun? Then, choose from the wide array of adult dating services.

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The Secret Of The Perfect Kiss

2006-02-17T00:11:00.000+08:00

Set The Mood

Set the mood by treating her like a queen. Take care of her every need so she can just lay back and let the day's stresses wash away. If it's your first date, just relax, take your time and make the entire date all about her (which means you have to tell her stuff about you too!) Look, she wants to feel like a million dollars, so treat her as though she is.

Pick The Right Situation

Take her out to a restaurant, for a moonlight walk, or cook dinner at home. Whatever the situation, create an ambience that's all about romance. Make sure the music is just right, give her your full attention, and if at all possible use candles! Candles are the secret-weapon of romantic guys everywhere. There isn't anyone who doesn't look mysterious, and glamorous by candlelight.

Sweet, Sweet, Breath And Soft, Soft, Lips

Guys, no one likes fish-breath! Or cigarette-breath come to that. Now wine-breath or chocolate-breath may just be OK, depending on the tastes of your partner, but you know what? To play safe, brush like a dentist! If you can't do that, then always have breath fresheners with you--any brand as long as they are peppermint or spearmint--and don't forget the lip balm.

Learn From The Masters

Too may guys dive straight in and have her pinned against the wall in three seconds flat. Look. She's most likely very tentative so be tentative too! She'll like that a lot. You must have watched the masters at work in those wonderful old classic movies starring Bogart and Cary Grant? It may take an entire 90 minutes to work up to THE kiss, but when it finally happens the sexual tension is just explosive! Well watch those movies again. Take note of the body language; the flashing eyes; the meaningful looks; the brushing of fingertips. What's NOT being said is louder--and way sexier--than any porn movie!

Nuzzle Her Neck And Kiss Her Face

Why do so many guys miss this amazing ace card? Unlike guys (most) women are slow starters. They take a while to warm up, and this is sort of kissing foreplay. Spend some time "investing" in the kiss to come.

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About the Author

Burrel Lee Wilks III is America's Most Authentic Life Coach! Find out more about this Streetwise MBA (Master of being Alive) at http://www.burrelstreetwise.com or subscribe to his free newsletter at http://www.TheBurrelReport.com

The Mood of Valentine's Day

2006-02-08T23:09:00.000+08:00

by CDMohatta

Mood. This is something very complicated. One moment, we are in mood to go out and meet some friends, and the next moment our mood changes. Mood is a state of mind and as most of us have no control over our minds, our mood changes from sad to happy.

Valentine's day is coming. One can not forget to be in the right mood for that day. Isn't it? How to do that? How to make sure that on that day, our mood does not become sad? Some bad memories don't overpower us on that day? And that we are in a mood to appreciate our beloved and make them feel special?

What makes mood? First is atmosphere. When you walk in a cancer ward of a hospital, your mood immediately becomes sad and you begin thinking of pains of life. And if after an hour you find yourself in a party to celebrate your friend's birthday, with cheer going around, your mood takes an about turn and you join the cheer. So atmosphere makes mood. The next to affect our mood are thoughts. If you read and think more about philosophy of living and the why and how of life, your mood automatically becomes serious. One needs a balance in life to keep a sane head all the time. Otherwise, either you will be always cheerful about everything and take nothing seriously or you will remain sad for most of the times. Bring a balance in your life.

Coming to Valentine's Day, one has to get into the mood of romance. How to do that? Here are some tips. Read more of romantic stories/novels or thoughts. Do window shopping near places that stock Valentine's gifts. Download few Valentine's day wallpapers. Talk to your friends about how love changes life. Avoid any serious topic for few days. Choose clothes that energize you. Go for colors rather than whites. Small things will add to your mood and by the time The Valentine's Day arrives, you will be in romantic mood.

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About the Author
CDMohatta writes content for some sites including Ecard Universe, Love Ecards, Valentines Day Cards, Inspirational Ecards.

Successful Online Dating Tips

2006-02-08T23:06:00.000+08:00

A few do's and don'ts of online dating

If you are new to the world of online dating and don't know its finer nuances, then you need to keep the following points in mind:

1. Create a screen name that is interesting. Avoid using one that is too sexy or hints at marriage. A screen name that includes your name should also be avoided. A screen name that is based on your looks may be most appealing to men.
2. You may be tempted to send e-mails to all the attractive guys with your zip code. If you are a little patient you my find that some of those men will contact you. If someone you fancy does not contact you, send him a short e-mail and then wait for him to follow up.
3. Avoid answering any questions you would not answer on a first date. Don't tell your date anything about your income or past relationships. It is not a good idea to tell him about how much you want to get married.
4. Include more than one photograph. Men find the visual aspect much more attractive. If you post many photos, a man will get a better idea about how you look and whether you are his type, before he meets you.
5. Don't communicate with a person who refuses sending you his photograph. He may have something to hide.
6. A person who only sends you his picture or his profile may not be worth a response. If he doesn't have the time to write you an e-mail, it is not worth wasting your time on him.
7. Always wait at least 24 hours before you respond to your date's e-mail. If you respond too quickly, he may get the impression that you are too desperate or that you have too much free time.
8. Don't log on to your personal website or answer e-mails on a Friday or Saturday. You must give the impression that you are not available, even if you are.
9. If a man does not respond, stop e-mailing him. If he is really interested in meeting you, he will contact you and ask you out for a date.
10. If a guy doesn't ask you out even after four e-mails you need to think about where the relationship is going. Keep mentioning that you are going out with friends and consider stopping all communication with him.
11. There is no need to keep your e-mails short. Sticking to three-line e-mails can seem strange to someone who sends you a long e-mail.

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Online Dating Tips for Single Parents

2006-02-08T22:50:00.000+08:00

by TJ Smith

Are you single again? Getting back into the dating scene after being away from it for a while can be tough. Tougher yet if you have kids involved. There are a number of new challenges involved in dating with children. With working all day, taking the kids to one event or the other. Spending the weekends with homework, housecleaning and grocery shopping, where's the time? Plus, what about the cost, babysitters, dinners out, the whole idea can be quite overwhelming.

The first thing you need to do is the same as everyone else. Start by making a list of what you are looking for. Maybe at this point you are really only looking for someone to spend time with. Maybe go see a movie that doesn't have talking animals in it? Have dinner without a happy meal? We all need that adult time. Follow the same rules for creating your profile. But you need to include in your ad that you have children. Let people know if they are with you full time or part time. Many ads say "my children are number one" This is a great way to let people know how important family is to you. There will always be people scared off by the fact you have children, but you probably don't want to date them anyway. Believe it or not, there are people who would love to find a great person with children because they love family as much as you do. When browsing ads look for people who are interested in "family activities" or "enjoy family time".

When you do find someone special enough to spend time with, they should be someone who can love your children too. Remember, they are part of a package deal. You, and your kids together. You may want to start even more slowly online than someone who doesn't have kids. Your children and their safety are your first priority. Any action you take is going to affect their lives as well. So they'll need to be happy with your new friend also. You'll need to be up front with them, on a level they can understand for their age group. Just listen to your heart, you'll know when it's the right time to introduce your friend to your kids. Start slowly having your children spend time with the two of you together.

Don't spend time with anyone who can't love your children too. As I said earlier you are part of a package deal. You must remember that giving out your personal information to someone you still don't really know not only gives them access to you, but to your children as well. And, of course as parents we all want to be protective of our kids. So, don't give your personal information out until you've met this person a few times offline, and you feel comfortable with them. The first few times they are with you and your children watch for any signs that they may not actually like children, how do thy act?, how do they talk to your children?, do they make any inappropriate comments? Anything that doesn't sit well, any gut feeling, show them the door. Your children always come first.

For any long-term relationship or even marriage it's you and your kids. New challenges will come when trying to coordinate schedules and time together. Blending families can be a real challenge and not one to be taken lightly. Respect your children's feelings. If the other person has children also, it might be nice to have similar custody schedules so that your children and their children are together on the same weekends. That way you can plan family activities together and on your "off" weekends you can schedule time together for the two of you.

Remember, when dating someone with children, you need to accept them as part of the package. That package will probably include the ex and shared custody with them. You need to be flexible and accepting of their past and everything that goes with that. Dating again as a single parent can be exciting, overwhelming, frustrating and very rewarding.

About the Author
TJ Smith is a writer, publishers and the creative force behind several websites including Mega Date Cafe http://www.megadatecafe.com/ Online dating advice, tips and news.

Dating: Fun or Serious?

2006-02-08T22:46:00.000+08:00

by Frederic Madore

When contemplating this question, it might occur to you eventually that dating could actually be both. After all, teenagers and those in their adult years have gone through this rite of passage called dating, and this is a natural activity, just as social interaction is part of every person's life.
While all our actions go through the cause and effect wheel, there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy a good date as much as your next-door neighbor.
There are probably a lot of questions in your mind -should you be a first-timer teen, or someone who's gone back to the dating pool -regarding dating. But don't fret! Here are some basic pointers on how to go about dating the hassle-free way:

Contemplate your reasons.

Just why are you deciding to whirl into the world of dating? It could be that you are looking for that special someone, make new friends and acquaintances, get intimate with someone, or simply experience what it's like to date. You could even be doing it for more complicated reasons -to try to forget your ex, find someone to marry, to hook up with that person you've been attracted to for years. Whatever the reason is, just make sure that it still borders on the healthy and positive. Date for the right reasons, reasons that will enrich your life and let you have fun. Most all, do it for yourself, and not just because you are being pressured into doing it.

Find your prospects.

If you've already gone through the first tip, then we're already in business! The good news is, this dating step is relatively easier. The advent of the world wide web has ensured that you can go online and sign up for dating and matching services in a matter of minutes. You'll find that there are quite a lot of people out there who are also looking for people to meet, date and have fun with.
Prep up your online profile and advertise, advertise, and advertise some more! Chances are, after wading through all the email from your prospective dates, you'll have quite a handful that you will want to meet up with. And if you're not an internet fan, you could also try the old-fashioned way of having your friends set you up with common friends. This has the added advantage of meeting up with someone who's not actually a total stranger -and if you have any awkward moments during the date, you could always start off the conversation by talking about your mutual friends.

The big "D".

It's finally time for what you have started to refer to as "The Date" -and you find that you're actually nervous. Don't panic. Things are about to get more exciting. But first, some practical dating concerns:
1. It would be best to set the date in a place considered common ground. This way, you have the security of being able to get away in case something goes wrong. His or her pad may be totally romantic, but make sure to make safety your first priority. There are still a lot of odd characters out there, after all.
2. It's also the best time to make sure you're clean and presentable. Even if you don't have the funds to splurge on that fabulous outfit, nothing beats over-all, good hygiene. Fashionable shoes can only do so much if you didn't even bother to brush your teeth. Dress as the occasion calls for. After all, getting ushered out of that fancy bistro for not following the dress code bombs out your date before it even begins.
3. Even before you start being charming to your date, make sure you extend the most gracious gesture of all, which is to arrive on time. This is one of the most basic dating etiquette you must adhere to. Not only does this ensure that you don't end up with a grumpy date, you'll also be able to let your date know that you put in some effort by being there on time.
4. All you need to be successful in dating is to be as courteous to your date as you, yourself, wish to be treated. From here on and after, matters would already depend on how you interact and, more importantly, if you two have any chemistry. But for now, best relax and try to have as much fun as you can.

About The Author
Frederic Madore is the founder of the http://dating-information-center.info website. Find all the info you want about Dating and online dating.

Five Tips for Planning the Perfect Valentine's Day Date

2006-02-08T22:41:00.000+08:00

by Jill Williams

Valentine's Day can be a stressful time especially if the burden of planning the big date falls on you. The high expectations for romance can make it seem like an almost overwhelming task but by following the 5 simple tips below you can plan a romantic date that will please even the toughest of critics.

In real estate the mantra is location, location, location. In planning a great Valentine's Day date your mantra is details, details, details.

Plan Well and Plan Early. Don't wait until the last minute. Decide what you want to do early and make any reservations or preparations well ahead of time. This is a very busy time of year for many popular date venues like restaurants, the theater, and concert halls. Many will sell-out early so by planning ahead you will ensure you get your first choice.

Know your Date. Plan with your date's personality in mind. If they are the outdoorsy type who hates to get dressed-up don't take them to a formal restaurant. Plan a hike and take along a special picnic lunch. You can go to your local specialty food store and buy a selection of meat, cheeses, and olives for a casual picnic. If they love hands-on activities, instead of taking them to see a play, find a fun class that you can take together. Your local community center or junior college may offer classes in cooking, ballroom dancing, or wine tasting. If they're the traditional type who loves to get dressed-up and go out to dinner surprise them by finding out from one of their friends what is the one restaurant they have been dying to try. However, while you want to keep your date's personality in mind you also want to be sure to pick something that you will also enjoy. After all the success of the date depends on the connection you make as well as the location you pick.

Appearance Matters. It's all about showing your date that you care. Now if you are going on a hike or playing a round of golf you don't want to wear a three-button suit and tie but do dress appropriate for the date. Has it been a while since you got a haircut? Could you use a shave? It's the little details that your date will notice and appreciate.

Be a Gentlemen. Do all those things you used to do when you were first dating but have let slide over time. Open the car door for your date, offer them your coat if they are cold, let them sit in the seat with the best "people watching" view at the restaurant.

It's the Thought that Counts. Now that you just shelled out all that money on great seats for the ballet or on a meal at the new hot restaurant in town, you may not have a lot of money to spend on a gift. Just remember that it really is the thought that counts. A well chosen card is something they will treasure and save as a memento of the occasion. Instead of just signing your name to a store-bought card add a personal note. Not a writer? Handwrite a romantic quote from a favorite author or poet or a line from "your song" on the inside of the card. (Be sure to cite the source of course!) Make the gifts personal. Instead of buying the traditional dozen roses find a special picture of the two of you and put it into a nice picture frame that they can put on their desk at work or on their nightstand at home.

So now that you are armed with these 5 tips go out there and start planning your date! Make this Valentine's Day one of your most memorable dates yet.

About the Author
Jill Williams writes articles on dating and matchmaking for online dating sites. www.MatchmakingMoms.com, www.MatchmakingFriends.com, www.MatchmakingKids.com

Matchmaking-Finding Love On and Offline

2006-02-08T22:39:00.000+08:00

by Linda Moore

People are so obsessed with their friends and families relationships, or more often than not, the lack of relationships that matchmaking has almost become a national past time. Who hasn't thought that they knew the "perfect" person for Cousin Joe or best friend Faith? We love to see if we are right, if we know what they are looking for in a companion. Therefore, we set our trusting friend up with Ken from work and cross our fingers that they won't hate us in the morning.

Matchmaking is not just a pastime; it is a huge business, with some matchmaking services claiming up to $1 million a month in revenue. These services offer their clients the chance to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right. In exchange for a fee and a filled out personality profile these matchmaking, or dating services promise to find compatible singles for you to date. They may not hit the mark every time, but the times they do are well advertised. This advertisement makes their successes well known to people who are seeking a relationship, whether for life or for a shorter time.

One of the fastest growing types of matchmaking services are the ones that are online. Online dating services allows one to post their likes and dislikes, wants and needs in the hands of multiple matchmakers. With the aid of the internet, this information is transmitted quickly to every eligible single that meets the set criteria. Then the magic begins. First pictures and emails are exchanged, then perhaps a phone call, or not. Online matchmaking is a great way to weed through any undesirable would be suitors.

Although matchmaking services gives one the opportunity to find that perfect someone, it is not without its drawbacks. The most notable being safety, more accurately, your safety. Whether you are a man or a woman, it is wise to focus on your well-being at all times. Keep in mind that you don't know anything about this woman or man that you have agreed to date, even if you have been conversing online or over the phone for sometime. Absolutely DO NOT let this person know where you live! There aren't many more things that you can do to make yourself more vulnerable to a predator.

When arranging a first face-to-face meeting, keep it in a public place. This will allow you to be seen by other people, while severely limiting the chances of an unscrupulous date to take advantage of an unsafe situation. The chances that your date turns out to be a murderer or other unsavory character are slim, but it just isn't worth the gamble.

If you strike gold and find the person you have been looking for all of your life, congratulations! You are now one of the many of millions of people who can credit the industry or past time of matchmaking to your happiness.

The pace at which online dating is growing would suggest that even with the dangers that may be involved, the potential for finding someone to start a relationship with is enormous. Everyday there are a multitude of people who have just signed up and every one of them brings with them a hope that the search is finally over.

About the Author
Linda Moore writes on a variety of subjects including home ownership, family matters, personal enrichment, matchmaking relationships and even marriage annulment

10 Tips On How To Get That Girl

2006-02-08T22:35:00.000+08:00

by Roy Barker

1. RECOGNIZE AND UTILIZE YOUR STRENGTHS.
Everyone has a special skill, whether it is humor, conversational ability, or athletic prowess. Think about your number one strength and incorporate it into your dating. What you look like is not of supreme importance.
2.GET HELP
If you are not confidant, and need to get help, then utilize your friends. Choose one that you think is successful, and ask for some tips. Some people find the socialising scene easier than others'. If you are having real trouble try asking a girl who is a friend to go out on a practise date. Then ask her what went wrong.?
3.REMEMBER THAT SOCIAL AND DATING SKILLS ARE NOT LEARNT IN A CLASSROOM Practise your skills regarding interaction with other people. Try not to brag all the time and listen to others. Try and bring out the best in others and make them warm to your personality.
4. BEING RESPONSIVE TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS IS NOT WEAKNESS.
You are not a wimp if you are aware of the times when other people need your support. We have come a long way since Men dragged women off by their hair to a cave. In a complex world girls need more than physical protection, and the provision, of the odd beast to eat, they do have emotional needs as well.
5. LEARN THE ART OF ASKING MEANINGFUL QUESTIONS
Many men mix up the difference between a statement and a qquestion, yet the difference is very basic and grasping the options that you can give the girls is a way to improving your relationships. Some men understand the difference for instance "whew it sure is hot, is a statement you are stating a fact and gives someone else little to reply to. How hot is this, aren't you hot? is a question asking for a response.
I have often listened to young men and wonder how they can get it wrong? They fire a series of questions off so fast, it is like being interrogated.
Ask a question, and then give a short answer, that's interesting, and then maybe follow it up with "Why do you feel like that?" Learn to incorporate the questions into smooth conversation.
6. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU MUST TAKE RISKS
Find the little things that you think are romantic, and act on them. This is fairly hard for some men, they are taught that real men don't express their feelings, you will appear weak if you do so. To be self-expressive you must be able to express your feelings. It may all go horribly wrong and you may hurt someone but the more you practise the easier it becomes.
7 BE UNPREDICTABLE.
Don't always do what you think women expect. A bunch of flowers is nice but too often is 'old hat' these days. Think of something different to do that will be fun for both of you. This does not need to be expensive, a candle lit dinner is wonderful, but there are other ways of doing something different. Women love dancing, and if you can't afford to go out dancing play some romantic music at home, and relax.
8. COOK HER A MEAL.
How special does a woman feel when her guy has gone to the trouble to shop, and prepare food for her. It does not have to be a five course gourmet dinner. Start with something simple like a salad, and even if you can't cook, practise one main course. Women think this is very romantic, and are quite likely to be bowled over by the gesture. Even if it does not taste that great, she will appreciate the thought.
9 BE AWARE OF THE GIRL'S BODY LANGUAGE
Body language is quite complex, but some things are easy. Practise on your friends. You should be able to recognize what sort of a general mood someone is in by the way that they hold themselves. Look at how relaxed people are looking when they laugh, they look as though they have not a care in the world. In contrast when people are holding themselves together, they look tense, and strung up. How many times have you seen a girl out and she is yawning, which is a sure sign she is bored, but on top of that she is giving men the brush off. Learn to read body language, and give yourself a fighting chance of success.
10. NEVER UNDER ESTIMATE THE POWER OF A SENSE OF HUMOR.
Women are real suckers for men that make them laugh. Laughter reduces tension and makes them feel more relaxed. It takes some of the stress out of getting to know someone. Even if it means telling little stories against yourself. By this I do not mean put yourself down, but tell a story when something you did backfired on you in a funny way.

About the Author
Author & Publisher Billy Baker - You can gain a vast array of more relevant detail from these sites along with other helpful tips and special surprises at http://www.datingxlence.com or http://www.datingxlence-resources.com

WAYS TO MAKE SURE THAT YOUR FIRST DATE IS SAFE

2006-02-08T22:22:00.000+08:00

by Roy Barker

1. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SPOKEN ON THE TELEPHONE FIRST.
When you use internet sites to date, make sure that you talk on the telephone before meeting the date. If you feel uncomfortable, be sure to get their number and call using your cell phone or use your local telephone blocking code to hide your identity.

2.GO PUBLIC Always meet in a public place, so that if anything goes pear-shaped, than you have the security of other people being present. However, to meet someone for the first time in your home or their's just piles the pressure on. It is easier to retreat from a public place, than from a house. Let someone else know how long you are out for and how long you intend to be. That way your location can be monitored. That means not moving on to another place, without informing someone, even if you have to go to the toilet and discreetly use a mobile phone.

3 LIMIT YOUR ALCOHOL INTAKE Control the amount of alcohol that you drink, so that you are sure you are in control. This probably applies equally for men and women, but for different reasons. Alcohol is not a stimulant, it is a depressant. It slows down your response time which means that you will not react in your usuall way to unexpected situations. It may mean that your alarm bell will not ring, when it should. A big 'no no' for women is that it lowers your inhibitions and you can be laying yourself open to unnecessary sexual pressure. Alcohol also makes people feel more confidant and extrovertive, but for men you don't necessarily want to look like a 'dipso'.

4.REMAIN IN CONTROL Your personal security is important on a first date. Being in control of the situation is imperative. Use your common sense, and trust your intincts, they may well be incorrect, but better to be safe than sorry.

5.LISTEN CAREFULLY TO POTENTIAL INCONSISTENCIES Look for inconsistent answers regarding your dates background background, status, profession, etc. This may indicate they are not who they say they are, or even worse, married! If you feel you want to bale out, don't pretend. Being straight to the point makes a clearer impression than fudged excuses.

6.STAY ANONYMOUS FOR AWHILE Most online dating services use a double-blind system to allow members to exchange correspondence between each other. This allows members to communicate, but without knowing each other's email addresses or telephone numbers. Going ahead cautiously may stop you from meeting that creep.

7.REMAIN REALISTIC Prince (or Princess) Charming may very well indeed be waiting for you online, but you should also set your expectations just a little bit lower. Most of your dates will go nowhere. Don't believe that everyone who shows interest is worth you investing your time. You do not have to settle for second best.

8.DON'T TRY TO MIRROR ANOTHERS PACE. If your date does not respect the pace you wish to progress at, then you should not fast track your pace to keep up with them. Proceed Slowly and Listen to Your Instincts

9. WATCH OUT FOR WARNING SIGNS Most people are on their best behaviour in the early stages of dating. How you are treated on the first few dates, will be a yard stick for future dates. If you are not shown respect on the first few dates, then it is not going to happen later. If your date is rude towards other people such as waiters, then he will be rude to you sooner or later.

10.DON'T TALK ABOUT THINGS YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT. You will end up with egg on your face if you start talking about something you know absolutely 'zilch' about. If you do not know about something be honest and say that you don't know. No one has an interest in everything, just admit it and move the conversation on to something light, or funny.

About the Author
Author & Publisher Billy Baker - You can gain a vast array of more relevant detail from these sites along with other helpful tips and special surprises at http://www.datingxlence.com or http://www.datingxlence-resources.com

The Single's Guide To Online Dating

2006-02-08T22:13:00.000+08:00

by Hak Ty

If you're single and you're willing to try out new avenues to dating then you should try out online dating. It's definitely fun, less expensive and easier than dating the regular way. You're also able to meet more people since the Internet lets you talk to people from all over the world! With online dating, there's no need to restrict yourself to dating the same old guys from your very small town (read: population of 817). With online dating, there's no such thing as social classes because it's open to everyone!

The Virtual Places To Be For Online Dating - If you're now open to the idea of online dating, there are several cyber places that you could stop by and see if there's anyone who appeals to your taste. First stop would be the online dating sites.

These sites were primarily designed to help people meet others with the same interests as theirs and maybe forge a relationship later on. Online dating sites such as these require you to register for membership and maybe even pay to enjoy additional features of the website.

Then, these online dating sites would ask you to create a profile for your own so that other members would know a little about you. These profiles could be the key to catching the interest of your future Mr. or Ms. Right so make sure that you make your profile as interesting as possible - without lying about anything, of course. Most online dating sites also allow you to upload photos of yourself so if you're reasonably attractive, do make sure that you post your best picture.

The second place that allows you to date online is chat rooms such as those provided by MIRC or Yahoo. These chat rooms are usually divided or categorized according to region, race or interest. If you enter a chat room with the name Singles20-40, then you should expect to meet people belonging to that age group. It's imperative to choose a chat room that reflects your preferences to ensure that you'll meet people who are probably similar to you in terms of interests.

The third virtual place to be if you want to try online dating is forums or interactive websites. By joining a forum or registering for membership in an interactive website, you'll be able to meet people who are sure to share the same interests as you do. These forums usually hold regular meetings so make sure that you participate actively and get yourself known!

About the Author
Published by http://www.tips-on-dating.com/article a site dedicated to providing dating tip and articles.

Online Dating

2006-02-08T22:08:00.000+08:00

by Tamara Williams

Online dates are becoming one of the internet's "best sellers", as their popularity is increasing day by day. A lot of singles (and, let's face it, some not-so-singles too...) seem to find the Internet a great mean to get in touch with each other, as a way to meet people without having to make the "first contact" in person. This has made wonders for a lot of people, but most for shy people who wants to date other people, but have a problem to make face-to-face approaches.

There are sites dedicated to get people in contact with each other to make friends, find true love and even for one time sex-dates.

There are some very reputable sites providing these services, some of them have been up and running for several years, and are making great profit. These sites' content is able to be searched locally, so you are able to look for available people within your very own town or city.

If you are looking for a date, then you should strongly consider online dating as a real alternative, but you should look for those dating sites that are well known. That way you will have two advantages: first of all, the more reputable a site is, the more users it has in its database, so you will have a "bigger menu" to choose from, being able to meet a lot more people than through less known sites. The second advantage you will have is seriousness: the best sites filter their user database to eliminate or reduce to the minimum the number of non valid (a.k.a. non real) users.

So, if you ask me, online dating is a great way to get in touch with new people, and if you choose the right dating site you will be able to meet just the kind of person you want to meet. And, who knows, you might find that special one right on the Internet!

About the Author
Tamara Williams is a successful author and writer for Online Dating Services Providing singles with information, advice and tips on the best dating services.